Posted by pegasus on February 4, 2004, at 15:44:51
In reply to Learning to like yourself, posted by Penny on February 4, 2004, at 15:31:52
Well, I'm no expert here, but maybe one first step is to notice the negative self talk. I've struggled with this myself, and before therapy, I never even noticed the totally mean things I say to myself about myself. I mean, I'm willing to say things to myself that I would never say to another person. And it's been a little helpful to think that through - why does that seem ok to me?
I know the positive self talk seems so artificial, and stopping negative self talk is hard. But that has helped me some.
Frankly, another thing that has helped is meditating. It just helps me be more aware of what's going on in my mind, and recognizing what's the basic reality, versus what's all the reaction and judgement that I lay on top of it. If you're interested, I can recommend some resources for getting started.
-p
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