Posted by Karen_kay on January 20, 2004, at 19:35:36
In reply to Re: Dealing with anger, posted by Angielala on January 19, 2004, at 8:52:51
Karen- that post was dead on. It's a long road, but there is hope.
*Thank you. It's confusing because I'm the middle ground. I have one sister who just hates my mother and another sister who denies anything ever happened.
But, I honestly don't have any hard feelings towards her. And it really feels great to say it. I love my mother with all of my heart. I just understand that I can't be around her often or the things she says or does (or doesn't say) will really bother me.
I guess it is about knowing your limits and really healing the feelings you have. It is hard to do. It was hard for me to realize that things weren't my fault. And it's a different situation for everyone in how they choose to accept things. Some people place the blame on themselves.
It's hard to heal those feelings. But once you do and realize that it isn't the person inside who's hurting you it is their problems, it makes it a bit easier to understand. At least it did in my case.
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