Posted by Jai Narayan on January 18, 2004, at 18:14:12
In reply to Dealing with anger, posted by Asya on January 17, 2004, at 18:41:58
> Hi guys,
> I am mainly looking for some support in dealing with a mother that really really hates me.
<Are you dependent on her? Do you live in the same residence as her?>She has always doted on my younger sibling and jusr hates me.
<I have experienced that as well.>My situation is this: I am tempted to estrange myself from her for all the pain she has caused me but I know it wouldn't be a practical long term remedy, mostly because I DO get along with other members of my family and because then she would probably turn others against me. How have other people handled the pain and revenge feelings of having a parent that just hates you and has emotionally and possibly physically abused you?
<not well, I have been in therapy all my life because of my mother. She was cruel and focused her anger and hatred at me.
>How do you go on and let go of all the anger?
<I had to do EMDR for the trauma she caused me.
I have a life to mend because of her meaness. I tried everything....I moved so far away that she couldn't be in my day to day life. I needed to be away from her.....
Why does your mother hate you? what do you think?
what's the matter with her? Is she ill? What have you done so far? Are you alright?
It's really hard to have the person who bought you into the world be so mean.
I have struggle with this all my life.
poster:Jai Narayan
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