Posted by LynneDa on December 29, 2003, at 14:12:38
In reply to Re: Saturday, posted by geri122 on December 29, 2003, at 12:09:39
Geri, I understand! What you're going through on the inside is being made worse by what's happening on the outside with your Dad. It's okay to hate your Dad's behaviors and be angry with them. You have 2 challenges before you: one is to try to get your emotions/hormones under control so you can deal with life better and the second is to learn coping mechanisms to deal with your home environment. Counseling can really help with both, sweetie!
I'm glad you see that your Mom deserves better. Maybe you will grow to be a stronger woman and not become attracted to a man who is as angry and negative as your Dad sounds. I'm sure there are reasons that he developed into the person that he is and he maybe isn't the introspective type who will look inside himself and around him to see the damage he's causing . . . and then do something about it. You can't change him, you can only change the way you react. Trite, I know, but it's the truth!
I really urge you to try and talk to someone about your situation. It will make you feel less desperate.
What about your Mom? Maybe you feel she is not in a good position to talk to you about the issues in your family, but maybe it will strengthen her in some way to know you recognize it and want to do something about it, a united front so to speak? It may seem insurmountable to take on your Dad, but it may not be. I know you don't like conflict, but it may be worth bringing it up to your Mom some time.
I'm glad to hear you got through Christmas, although it was disappointing. Hang in there and here's hoping 2004 will be much better and healthier for you!!!!
~ Lynne
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