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Re: that is so sweet. me2 » Jai Narayan

Posted by JadeT on December 9, 2003, at 19:50:12

In reply to that is so sweet. me2, posted by Jai Narayan on December 9, 2003, at 16:20:15

> Really people have felt uncomfortable? With what?
> I guess when our friendship started up I asked lots of questions and compared notes about our lives and I was amazed at how similar our lives had been. Even Larry had said, "birds of a feather"... I guess for me it had to settle down to where we just

>got to defining how we could relate.

Exactly, but I think Lar tried to very succinctly but kindly define "how we could relate"

> I was impressed with Larry…now honestly I don't know for a fact who he is…I am just impressed with the persona that I have interacted with. He's (if Larry is really a he) a kind, intelligent and helpful person. Who wouldn't be impressed?

That's so sweet...
And yes he is, isn't he...and most people on this site are extremely grateful for his help and kind words. His help to some have really made a huge difference in their lives...but your reaction came across to me as being overexaggerated...especially considering all it appeared you did was have a chat about a few things like going out in a canoe with your partner to watch some birds?
Of course again, maybe I am missing something?....but that how it came across to me.

Also "(if Larry is a he)"...here again, well I guess I should give you the benefit of doubt too..perhaps you react like that to females and males? no judgements being made, of course...
But again your words were exaggerated to the point where it did cause "discomfort" to me reading it, and I assume to many others ..not to mention probably Larry himself or his sweetheart.


A lot of his traits are among my most important.
> It was an attraction that developed into friendship...I am committed to someone I dearly love and would never threaten that. Larry was clear about where he was at...why would anyone else feel uncomfortable? I am still confused.

That's so sweet too, but you still haven't answered my Question of why you felt you should call him honey when it wasn't a custom of yours and nothing has occurred that I can see to cause this change....

I still cannot work out why anyone would think of starting to call anyone "honey" if it is not something you are used to doing, not something you are comfortable with as in it doesn't come naturally, and they haven't encouraged you?

Like why "honey" all of a sudden then?
and what did "I guess I can do it too" mean exactly?..like why start now and then post that ..like you are doing "it" too even though you feel uncomfortable doing it?..for no reason I can work out? and what does too mean..?
Perhaps I missed something, but that line can be taken quite a no of ways?

As I posted before ...That line, to me, came over all wrong..like it was some game, which you didn't want to stop.


> But I want to thank you for further communicating with me.

thank you too

>
> I appreciate that it must have been hard for you to have asked these questions. I support your courage in seeking the truth.
> Jai Narayan

Thanks again Jai.. it must be hard for you to face these questions and I appreciate your attempts to answer.

Jade


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