Posted by thewriteone on November 11, 2003, at 19:45:28
In reply to Re: new here/issues with therapist » thewriteone, posted by Dinah on November 11, 2003, at 15:58:24
> My fear of abandonment was so great that whenever he mentioned anything that even remotely sounded like termination, my flaming amygdala flamed and I couldn't hear anything else he said.
Yes, I'm very aware that it's my problem. I just wish that made it easier to deal with.
> Could you talk about it further? Talk it to death if you need to. One of my two main issues is fear of abandonment, and I'm afraid my therapist got thoroughly sick of the topic before I ceased to constantly fear he would terminate me. Can you ask her *exactly* why she asked? What was in her mind? And *exactly* how it made you feel, and the stream of consciousness it started? Can you ask her how she envisions the course of your therapy?
Those are all very good suggestions. I very much plan to talk to her about it. Maybe more sooner than later. I think I'm going to try and write out my thoughts before I go in to speak with her again.
> That being said, I think it's only fair of me to add that not all therapists are like mine. You might want to look through the archives of Psychological Babble (look at the top of this page. There's a link to Psychological Babble.) A lot of us have had these problems.
Oh, I didn't realize there was a better place for this post. Sorry about that.
> Good luck, and when in doubt, be honest with your therapist. :)
Thanks. I need all the help I can get.
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