Posted by kara lynne on November 5, 2003, at 0:51:42
In reply to Re: problems with my boyfriend » sienna, posted by octopusprime on November 5, 2003, at 0:13:05
I just read this and saw that octo and I addressed the exact same sentence in opposite ways. I want to clarify, because I don't mean you should rely on passive aggressive behavior--I didn't get the feeling that you were. My thought was that if you had already tried to talk to him directly and it wasn't working, maybe a little action would be a good thing. I don't think it has to be seen as passive aggressive, but it might speak to him in a way that words haven't. Even if you say you're just taking some time for yourself it's true, and it might create a non pressured way for him to respond in his own right. Sometimes things just need a chance to cool down, you both can try to integrate your thoughts.
Maybe he will respond, maybe he won't--that remains to be seen. But it might still help you feel better about yourself, just to be away from a source that temporarily seems to be shut down.
You deserve kindness.
I hope you feel better soon. Please let us know how you're doing.
Love Kara
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