Posted by kara lynne on November 4, 2003, at 19:38:41
In reply to Re: problems with my boyfriend » kara lynne, posted by sienna on November 4, 2003, at 19:10:57
--i almost feel that if i just dont say anything but use actions (like not coming to his house) speak for me, maybe it will motivate him to talk about what is wrong.--
I think you're right. In general the more we push--and out of good intention, because we want to make things better--the more we push them away. Maybe this will give him a chance to collect himself and be in a better position to give you what you need.
I think it's such a good idea to spend a little time away, in your own space. Sometimes when I spent a lot of time at my boyfriend's house before we moved in together, I would begin to feel like I lost my center. I didn't even notice what was wrong until I got home and safe, and could begin to feel who I was again, not in relationship to him.
Chances are it's more about him than it is you, but unfortunately that doesn't make you feel any better. It's hard not to take it personally, but give it a shot. I think you're on the right track.
Thinking of you,
kara
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