Posted by KimberlyDi on September 15, 2003, at 11:22:47
In reply to Insecure in relationship, posted by almondjoy on September 13, 2003, at 0:46:00
My advice? <smile>
End it so there's no possible way that you will ever get hurt. Break up with him before he breaks up with you!
Like that one? I used to live my life that way. I was miserable.
If you want companionship, you have to understand that there will NEVER be guarantees. There will always be risk. You can always get hurt. But you can also live, love, have experiences, and learn. Learning is the key. Down the line, if this doesn't work, then the next time you'll either pick better (the next potential soul mate) or learn to like/love better (how to give and receive in a normal relationship).
Relax, take a chance, keep your eyes wide open, and let the relationship grow. :)
Good luck!
KDi in Texas> I'm not generally so insecure, but my relationship w/ my guy (1 year in 5 weeks) scares me. I always worry he's eventually going to get tired of me being sick (anxiety/depression) Everything is cool (except for my moodiness) then I get really depressed and cry alot, which makes him really uncomfortable, or i have a panic attack or don't want to go out for weeks...ahhhh i feel like he must be fustrated, and even more so because i sometimes ask him if he's fustrated or if he's sick of me.
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> i don't want to ruin things because of my insecurity, if my mental health is part of just who i am, who he accepts, as is, but i can't get it off my mind.
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> its good in someways, cos i can "fake it till i make it" if i know we'll be seeing each other, i don't wallow, put on a happy face but he knows when im not ok.
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> this is the longest relationship i've been in, i never wanted one, and wham---i fell in love (for 3 months i thought i was magically cured by love, stopped taking meds) but i started back (and this time for...infinity...???...
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> i just get so scared he'll break up with me (even though we're stable) everytime i panic or freakout..like on the 99th time I say, sorry babe, i just wanna stay in or the 300th night of me running to the bathroom so i wont wake him crying all night....im rambling...tired
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> i just need some feedback, anyone in a similar situation on either end, anyone, anyone, anyone?
poster:KimberlyDi
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