Posted by fallsfall on September 13, 2003, at 9:29:11
In reply to Insecure in relationship, posted by almondjoy on September 13, 2003, at 0:46:00
I know that it is often true for me that I think other people are thinking awful things about me, or that they might think awful things about me. But I have found that if I ASK them, that they really aren't thinking awful things. They are fine and I am worrying about nothing.
You said a couple of things in your post:
who he accepts, as is
even though we're stable
These statements make me think that he may be having less of a problem than you think he is. They say that the relationship is going pretty well,in fact.
You also said: "i sometimes ask him if he's fustrated or if he's sick of me". What does he say when you ask him that? If he says "I'm not frustrated or sick of you" then you need to believe that. Sometimes I try to tell myself that what they say isn't how they really feel - but, it really is how they really feel. Or even if it isn't, it is their responsibility to be honest with you and tell you the truth. All you can do is go on what he says. So if he says he is fine, then he IS fine.
I guess I would just encourage you to talk to him more. My guess is that things are better than you think.
Good luck.
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