Posted by Susan J on September 14, 2003, at 14:06:56
In reply to Re: Insecure in relationship » Susan J, posted by Dinah on September 14, 2003, at 13:54:59
Dinah,
> Because even if there are some ways that I'm not coping in the most relationship-friendly manner, it still helps to think of the behaviors as being the problem instead of myself as being unfit to be a wife/mother/etc.
>
> Do you mind if I print it out?<<Thanks! Please, feel free to print it out. Actually, you were a bit of my inspiration on this one. I know I haven't been here long, but I have gathered that you have been married for quite a while. And having that type of longevity, I figured something was working right for the both of you. :-)
And I *truly* think it's the behavior that's wrong, never the *person.* My therapist told me that *nothing* I feel is ever wrong, like anger, hatred, fear, sadness, etc. It's just what I *do* with those feelings that matter. Which is good. Because I'm really bad at even trying to control my emotions. :-)
And I'm hopeful, too. As a person who'd like to meet a life partner/get married/etc., I've got to believe there's something good and worthy about me, even if I am fighting (and not apparently winning) the fight against depression. :-)
Susan
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