Posted by KimberlyDi on August 25, 2003, at 11:59:27
In reply to How to prevent a man from turning into a child?, posted by Susan J on August 13, 2003, at 13:58:22
"The only difference between men and boys are the price of their toys."-unknown
or an answer? "Don't treat him like one."
or ask yourself "What is the common denominator in your relationships?" you.
Females are geneticly programmed to be nuturing. I think the main problem begins if the man takes it for granted. Start looking at yourself. How do you treat your boyfriends? Are you like me? Caring, loving, attentive to his needs? Do you make sure his prescriptions are refilled before he runs out? Do you take care of him? If so, you may need to set some boundaries. Or look at what he does for you, and see if it evens out.
Even if the *so-called problem* is you, it isn't terrible. No one can fault a person for being nuturing. One would just have to stop enabling the childlike dependence to take place.
Communication is important also. You have to tell him what you want. Most guys do like to please. :)
Or I could be WAAYYYYYYYY off base.
my 10cents worth
KDi in Texas> I REALLY find this to be a problem and I always wondered if it's due to boys growing up in single parent households where the mom is in charge. He grows up seeing a strong woman and thinks that his partner should be like that too. Which is great! Two strong people are better than one.
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> But they seem to let the woman be strong and slip back down into being the one taken care of....
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