Posted by yesac on August 2, 2003, at 18:47:58
In reply to re: vacations, depression, kids, adventure! » yesac, posted by lil' jimi on August 1, 2003, at 19:32:23
> and your responses are more severe too ... you win!
Oh, come now, it's not about winning! (it's how you play the game?)... or more, it's just about interesting conversation for me.
> darling-sweetheart-angel-soulmate-wife can drive up the proverbial wall when she is into her hurry up mode ... which goes (and goes) for every vacation and all holidays ... ... and because i'm slow, i get stressed that i'm in trouble with her about it ... this can lead to tug-of-war between the hurry ups versus my lets-slow-down ... ... not really relaxing ...
Wow... I know Just What You Mean about the hurry-up-let's-do-as-much-as-we-can versus the more relaxed pace. Except - I have to admit - I am the hurry up one. Not that I don't sometimes like to sit down, chill out, and just take it all in... but, well, I just can't help myself from trying to rush around and do as much as possible. It just makes me feel like I've accomplished more with my vacation. I know that in some ways it doesn't make sense, because it should be more about quality than quantity, but like I said, I can't help it. And. This friend I told you about, who I do a lot of traveling with. She is beyond slow. Not only if we are on vacation, but just always. I shouldn't say ALWAYS, but usually. It drives me up a wall! Actually, come to think of it, I guess she is better when traveling than just when we are hanging around.
> EXACTLY my idea of a vacation! ... getting the things done that need getting out of the way in order to be able to relax on a vacation ... and doing them at your leisure ... oh, yeah ...It's just that it isn't particularly FUN. Maybe the best bet is to spend a few days in the beginning of a vacation taking care of those things, then go on vacation-vacation. Or, I also think that a vacation where you stay at home, but go off on some day-trips could be good. Then, you don't have to worry about hotels, eating out, planes trains and automobiles, etc. You get to return home to the comforts of - well, home. I might be doing some of that in a month or so, if and when my parents come to visit me.
> series "Rescue Heroes" ... who are a team of hightech first-responders: there's a fire fighter; a underwater guy; a forest ranger; a chopper pilot; et cetera ... (women are included, of course)
That sounds like such a good, positive game for a youngster!
> ... to the point that he lets me know he's got enough and wants to do something without me ...
Sounds like he's learned about "boundaries" and asserting his needs/desires already. A skill that will serve him well in the rest of his life, if he can manage to keep it up. And manage to not go overboard with it, so as to be totally inflexible and demanding and self-serving. Well, I'm going off a bit, but I'm just trying to say that it's good, because a lot of people/adults don't know how to do that very well and get walked over and/or don't very often get what they want, don't respect themselves and their needs...
> ... and he is still little enough that i can get very mushy with hin and he doesn't complain ... yet ... but the day is coming when he'll have me cut that down to a minimum ....
I'm sure it won't be for a while though!
> > the book Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance - you know the one
> this Is Too Ironic .... and demands a separate post .... .... next time! ... only a little later i hope ...Hmmm - considering your Buddhist-ness, I'm wondering about what you have to say...
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