Posted by lil' jimi on August 1, 2003, at 19:32:23
In reply to vacations, depression, kids, adventure! » lil' jimi, posted by yesac on August 1, 2003, at 16:19:03
hi yesac,
> > ... but i think part of it is the stress generated by the others on vacation .. .... ... you definitely are better at it than i am ....
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> I am? Well, I'm not sure if this is what you mean, but I think that definitely the others you are with can be stressful, just having to be with them 24/7, make decisions together like where you're going to go, what you're going to do, what time to get up... Also, though, I think that the other people who are on vacation as well, people you don't know, can add stress or for me depression. Because I look and it seems like they are having such a great time and I often don't feel like I am too.
>aye, you got me there lassie! ...
... ... yours are the greater stressors ... and your responses are more severe too ... you win!see, i was being too oblique to be understood ... sorry ... i was referring to, or rather, i was trying not to refer to how much my darling-sweetheart-angel-soulmate-wife can drive up the proverbial wall when she is into her hurry up mode ... which goes (and goes) for every vacation and all holidays ... ... and because i'm slow, i get stressed that i'm in trouble with her about it ... this can lead to tug-of-war between the hurry ups versus my lets-slow-down ... ... not really relaxing ... and not something i wanted to reveal ... ... isn't That interesting?(!) .... that i really don't want to go there ..(?) ... major, Hmmmmm ....
> > now i feel like my responsibilities make me want to straighten out the house, get that mortgage, choose that health insurance ... and take a BIG NAP ...
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> I think that that type of vacation can be better than a going-away vacation, because it is just more relaxed and you're getting things taken care of that maybe you haven't exactly had time for...
>EXACTLY my idea of a vacation! ... getting the things done that need getting out of the way in order to be able to relax on a vacation ... and doing them at your leisure ... oh, yeah ...
> > well, you sound pretty good ... must be working .. . ... (?)
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> Hmmm... really not so sure about that. So hard to tell.
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> > the little guy is such a powerful antidepressant ... once he saw me sad ... told me i needed a band-aid ... he put one on me ... and i was all better ... and he likes his Rescue Heroes ... he plays their computer game, sometimes, beside me while i'm pB-ing on the other computer ... i have my dad's dell next to my imac... ...
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> That's cool. I don't know what rescue heroes is. So, you can get some quality time in with him as well as quality time with PB at the same time! What's his name, if you don't mind me asking?
>Robert Santiago M. : our very own small Super Hero ... ... his current favorite computer game features his heroes from the animated tv series "Rescue Heroes" ... who are a team of hightech first-responders: there's a fire fighter; a underwater guy; a forest ranger; a chopper pilot; et cetera ... (women are included, of course)
... Santiago (as i call him; his mom calls him "Roberto") enjoys when we are at the computers together, but he also likes it when we gang up on his computer games together ... he tells me we're a team ... but he has unlimited access to me when we are home ... to the point that he lets me know he's got enough and wants to do something without me ... which i respect and take as a measure of success on my part: he has gotten as much of me as he wants ... and he is still little enough that i can get very mushy with hin and he doesn't complain ... yet ... but the day is coming when he'll have me cut that down to a minimum .... ..... he gets to know that these are things i let him decide ... he enjoys that and i get to feel confident that he knows how much i care for him ... he is a good guy to his mother and i too>
> > i used to ride with companions and often alone, by motorcycle(s) out to california .. .. to camp out on Mt. Shasta ... .... for weeks, in tents ... climbed to the summit once ... it was 30 years ago now ... ... i hope you can have that kind of fun and adventure with your friend ...
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> That does sound like so much fun. I long to be carefree like that. I always think that things like that sound so fun, and it looks like people have such a good time, but when I find myself actually doing things that should be fun and adventurous, I usually am not having fun. I am usually depressed. But at least in doing them, I feel like I am not wasting my life away. Feel like I am trying to experience life.
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> By the way, your description reminds me of the book Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance - you know the one - a book that I must say I thought would be cool, but I had to stop reading it halfway through because I couldn't stand it!
>this Is Too Ironic .... and demands a separate post .... .... next time! ... only a little later i hope ...
take care there!
~ jim
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