Posted by temmie on July 24, 2003, at 21:29:28
In reply to Re: Hurt of Infidelity -- Merc and Fallsfall, posted by Mercury on July 24, 2003, at 19:08:30
... otherwise referred to (with one friend, at least), as "Rebound Guy." (But that's just cruel.)
Dennis is sweet. We met for a drink ... which turned into drink(s). Then we lingered over dinner. He is a sweetie. I was not initially attracted to him, but it's such a relief to be able to talk with someone openly and honestly .... We'll see where it goes.
I have a therapy appointment with a new doc tomorrow (it's been probably two months in the waiting) who specializes in abuse-recovery issues. Presumably Doc U will be able to illuminate some of my understanding re. why I was attracted to such a dysfunctional, substance-addicted abuser ... And, in the meantime, Merc, you'll be happy to know -- Dennis thinks I'm beautiful and -- gasp -- foxy -- and dang it -- he wants to take me to the Carribean (or out on his boat until we can get there). I don't care. I'm just glad to have spent a fun evening with someone I can be upfront and honest with, who seems to honor my feelings, interests, desires, etc., including my need to TAKE THINGS SLOW.
Wheee! We'll see where this goes. I'm writing from campus and will drive home when I feel sober enough to do so. Betweeen you, Merc, Fallsfall (and Zoo? Sorry, I'm not clear on names at this point ... for the astrological eomparison) ... thanks to everyone's enouragement -- I feel a wee bit clearer about the need to STOP things immediately, to step aside from the role of Enabler, and to permit Paul the privilege of figuring things out by himself.
More soon.
XXX, Temmie
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