Posted by Temmie on July 24, 2003, at 13:23:50
In reply to Re: The hurt ... it's a cyclical thing, posted by Temmie on July 24, 2003, at 12:59:53
Enabling, detaching, etc. I did not call Paul last night, but I called to talk with a mutual friend -- and it didn't feel right, but I so wanted to know what was going on -- and in such, opened up that whole attachment phoenomena. You know. Mercury, when you said STOP (or whatever that profound directive was), you meant stop at once. I get it. A classmate today put it in terms of saving my life -- and being necessary for Paul to save his. He will not have to make any changes at all, so long as people are aiding his limping along. Myself included. I just want to understand myself better -- and want to "unhook." I don't want to hurt anymore. I don't want to feel guilty. I don't want to feel concerned. I want my choice here to be clear -- and to put the responsibility for Paul taking care of himself (and his myriad problems) back on his shoulders. Good grief, I've got enough problems of my own -- but number one -- feeling that emotional door close would be a help. Anyone got website referrals to Al-Anon stuff?
Temmie
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