Posted by Penny on July 8, 2003, at 14:35:45
In reply to going home and I don't want to, posted by yesac on July 8, 2003, at 10:41:07
What made you move in the first place, if I might ask?
I know what you mean about not having any friends here - I have one (my roommate) and she has her own group of people she hangs around with.
And in Charlotte, the only friends I made were people I worked with. Here most of the people I work with are significantly older than me and many of them live outside of CH/Carr anyway. So, like you, I have nobody.
And I have yet to find a good way of meeting people. I think about volunteering, but haven't started that yet, thinking more seriously about a support group as I just talked to the substitute therapist about that, but friendships as in people to hang around with don't usually arise from support groups, at least not in my experience - perhaps I am wrong!!! Have tried to think of other ways to meet people, but so far have only met people in my classes, and they're all significantly younger than I! ha!
I'm (much) closer to home than you are, but I don't go there if I can help it. Make the occasional trek to Wilmington to see my grandmother but almost never go to where I spent the majority of my growing up years. And it doesn't really matter anyway because I'm no longer in touch with the folks I went to high school with. And my college friends have all moved away (minus my roommate, who is from Durham anyway).
So, I see your point.
But, I don't think 9 months is long enough to really get settled somewhere and put down your own roots. I've been back in CH since August and still don't feel settled in the least. Still think fondly of Charlotte, where, even though it took a while, I had formed my support base of friends and people who were like family to me.
Not that fortunate here, but really really hoping that will change.
Another problem - your mood has dipped seriously (as has mine) and now it's even harder to think about trying to find friends, etc.
I'm sorry you feel so alone. When you get back, weigh your options and try to remember why you moved here and list the pros and cons...etc. etc.
Take care.
Penny
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