Posted by giget on July 8, 2003, at 11:01:01
In reply to going home and I don't want to, posted by yesac on July 8, 2003, at 10:41:07
This is something you are really going to have to think about. Why did you leave in the first place? What about weather? Being calm? These are some of the reasons I am moving....
Did you have alot of friends at your families home? Do you think you could hold it together there with your family always butting in? What were the problems you moved away from?
If things have changed at your families home, and you feel better there, and safe, then go back. No one ever said that once you move you can not move back. That is the fun of life. To experience something new but always knowing you can go back to the city you grew up in, even though it has probably changed.
That is another thing to look at. The place you left 9 months ago will not be the same if you move back. Buildings have been built, people have grown up, and people have not seen you in a while.
Don't move unless you have thought long and hard about the decision and what you expect to get out of it. You have to rationalize your decision not only on what you think will happen, what you need right now, but what it will really be like.
Your heart will tell you the right thing to do. Just go back to your house and think for a while.
> Well, I'm leaving tonight to go back to the place that has become my home. It is my home because it is where I live, where I am a resident of the state, where my job is, where my car is registered, where my therapist and psychiatrist are, where I am trying to set up a life for myself. But here is what it is not: a place where I have basically any friends or family, a place that I feel comfortable and connected to. My house is not all that cozy and "homey" feeling. The worst thing is the loneliness though. My main social interaction is at work. Most of the rest of the time I am alone and totally bored. I have been back up here (in NH, where I grew up - spent 16 years of my life here, which is a lot considering that I'm 24) with my family for the past week. I really have not had the best time actually, and I feel really bad about that, but I was just extremely depressed over the weekend and unable to really enjoy much. Now I'm already leaving and I don't feel like I got enough quality time with them and my cat, and I don't know when I'll be here or see them again. Today and yesterday I've felt better. But I am now just thinking about going back to the aloneness of my real life.
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> I don't know, guys. I'm sure I'll just fall back into it, but is that really a good thing? Maybe I shouldn't live so far from my family. It was my decision about a year ago to make this leap, but it hasn't gotten much easier in the 9 months I've lived there. I don't know how it's going to get any better.
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