Posted by kara lynne on June 12, 2003, at 18:28:49
In reply to An alien on my own planet, posted by kalyb on June 12, 2003, at 15:49:36
Hi kalyb,
I'm at work and don't have the time to read all that you posted or do it justice, but I wanted to respond in the meantime.It's so hard to survive our own intense self-criticism during all of this; to have to endure the harsh and ignorant judgement from others is just not fair. Congratulations on making it out of a very stressful encounter relatively intact! What a difficult situation to live in--especially with the newborn and all the conflict that must bring up for you.
You're right. It is 100% none of her business why the relationship ended between you and your boyfriend. I'm sorry you felt like you had to make excuses to someone so uncompassionate. But if you feel it helped you out of a sticky situation and it will keep her quiet, then that's all that matters. But you don't owe her any excuses. It sounds like she's already got her ideas, and she's just going to find ways to keep you in the place she's created for you.
I wish you could move to a more healing environment; one where you don't have to constantly dodge other people's damaging projections. You're just beginning to find out who you really are, and you need to take care of her tenderly. Maybe you could find a room somewhere else? Somewhere where you are required to do minimal work (maybe for an older person) or just pay your money and live in peace?
Well I'm sorry I'm all fired up! I just want you to know I'm rooting for you, and searching for other signs of life on our planet...
(((((((((kalyb)))))))))) Kara Lynne
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