Posted by bozeman on March 27, 2003, at 0:21:28
In reply to need support for grief, posted by babs on March 25, 2003, at 7:12:18
Babs
I am so sorry. I am very close to both my parents and live every day with the spectre that every time I see them could be the last. One has a frail heart, the other is a stroke candidate (tias etc.).
I agree you should spend as much time with her as you are able to. Tell her the ways she helped make you who you are, and how much it means to you. Embrace the time you have left. That is the best gift anyone could give someone with a terminal illness.
Though I have not lost my parents I have lost family and friends to death and spent too much time in guilty recrimination for the things I didn't say or do, time I didn't take off from work to be with them while I could. Like lostsailor, I'm not sure your spiritual preferences, but some books that have helped me greatly are
"When Bad Things Happen to Good People" by Harold Kushner
"The Prophet" by Kalhil Gibran
"Spritual Notes to Myself" by Hugh Prather
"God Works the Night Shift" by Ron Mehl
Each has a slightly different approach but I found all are worth meditating on.I pray that you, your boyfriend, and your mother will be able to spend time together that enriches your love for one another with strong memories you can keep always, and that her life and influence will by those memories, live forever through you and him.
Hope this helps a little.
Wishing you Peace and Strengthbozeman
poster:bozeman
thread:212441
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20030326/msgs/213334.html