Posted by Phil on October 2, 2002, at 19:22:06
In reply to Re: I actually do want to change, posted by Tab▀itha on October 2, 2002, at 14:40:18
Tabitha, You want to meet someone? When a situation presents itself, stick out your right hand, stare them in the eye and say,"Hi, my name is Tabitha." 9X's out of 10, they will shake your hand, introduce themselves and you'll then notice something peculiar. They will look shy and uneasy. If it feels right, if they're cool, just say, "I Really have a hard time meeting people, I never know what to say." They will say, "Me, too. I don't know who to trust."
yada, yada...you go girl.
Or, next time you checkout anywhere, ask the cashier, with true concern, doing okay today? or How's 'your' day been? When they hear honesty in your voice, it shocks them a bit but you see their wall come down and they talk. They remember you because in 20 years, nobody has done that! haha
Here THE secret to communication: Listen intently. Don't think: What do I say to this person. Do small talk but show in your eyes that you're really more interested in what they have to say. People need listeners and they will like you.
Shoulders back, chin up, be comfortable with yourself, hold your head up high, look open with your body language.
1. Most people struggle with meeting others
2. Hear what someone is really saying.
Learn to be curious about people and talking will come from that. And that's real.
Once you get to know some people you move to step #2..How to get rid of them.AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!