Posted by mist on October 2, 2002, at 15:30:26
In reply to Re: I actually do want to change, posted by Tab▀itha on October 2, 2002, at 14:40:18
Oh, I didn't realize that it was a goal you chose for yourself. I was thinking back to when a therapist implied I should expect to meet people in the produce section. I doubt I'll ever be able to relax in the produce section. :) I thought maybe all therapists imposed a similar scenario on their shy clients. But if it's something you want, I wish you luck in being able to do it. I'm very shy, so I know it can be hard to talk to just anyone. And I agree the group thing doesn't always pan out into friendships. For me it just feels safer and, in theory at least, more likely that I'll connect with someone.
> It's my repeated griping about the problem that prompted this. I really want to talk to people but feel paralyzed with shyness and self-criticism. I can get to know people in social clubs but it takes forever, like a year around the same people before I start to open up. Even if I take an 8-week class I can go thru it and not really meet anyone, so I quit bothering. Paralysis. I don't have time to hang out in groups for a year just to finally meet a few people.