Posted by Phil on September 30, 2002, at 12:04:12
In reply to Re: Alcoholic wife is making my life miserable., posted by lawrence s. on September 30, 2002, at 9:24:03
They teach you to detach from the alcoholic and realize you are powerless over their drinking. And if need be, they support you when you leave.
Example: One Al-Anon lady used to cover up her passed out on the floor husband before going to meetings. Now, she just steps over him, he's the one that passed out on the floor. No more enabling. Sounds cruel to detach with love but it will keep you from losing your mind.
When you tell your story at AlAnon, you'll get compassion, common sense, a sense of humor, and 80% of the people nodding yes as you speak.
Your wife will probably have to hit bottom hard. She then will have three choices go nuts, die, or recover. That's the cold hard facts on alcoholism.
AlAnon will teach you to take care of yourself and kids without trying to fix your wife.
I pray for you and her that she can find sobriety.
It's a godawful thing to deal with..from both sides.
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