Posted by Phil on September 25, 2002, at 18:26:59
In reply to Re: Why don't I like my sister anymore?Phil, posted by sjb on September 25, 2002, at 13:57:21
Find a damn good therapist. This is where talk therapy kicks ass. If your family can't or won't accept it or you don't want to open that can of worms, a good therapist is like fresh air.
Write anger letters to each of your family members and take as long as you need. But write them individually and really try to open yourself up to really feel your feelings and put them on paper. Write what you feel, don't judge it just write. Don't mail them. haha That was one of the most effective tools in my therapy. Had no idea of the level of anger I was carrying towards my father. Parents divorced when I was 5 and I heard from him 2 times as a little kid, and saw him once for a few hours when I was 16. I didn't know how much shit I had stuffed and I had already had years of therapy.
A lot of families chose to stay sick rather than deal with all this messy feeling stuff. But one thing for sure: You don't have to and that's all that matters.