Posted by sjb on September 25, 2002, at 13:57:21
In reply to Re: Why don't I like my sister anymore?Phil, posted by Phil on September 25, 2002, at 13:13:07
I'm also afraid they wouldn't believe me or go into denial about it. My brother-in-law is highly respected in the community and my family thinks he's wonderful. I've always been the "unconventional" one of the family.
I told one of my other sisters and she was sorry but then she just acted like she just wanted to forget about it. I certainly didn't want to obsess about it, but I was actually hurt that she wasn't mad at my brother-in-law for me. I guess I wanted your reaction, Phil. I didn't want her to do anything for me, like confront him, but a little bit of anger with him while talking with me about it, somehow would've made me feel better. Do you know what I mean?
In fact about a year or so after I told her she told me about a visit she made to my sister and brother-in-law shortly after 9/11. She told me she hugged my sister and him 'cause she was so glad all of us were healthy, ok etc. Normally this would've been a touching thing, but I remember thinking, "She doesn't hold this against him at all." It's like she already put it completely out of her mind.
I realize I'm delving too much here. Guess I should get back to therapy. I think it's one reason I keep stopping or switching. I've never wanted to deal with it.