Posted by Medusa on August 29, 2002, at 1:51:39
In reply to Re: PB Dating board??~~~my life as a f**k up :-) » Medusa, posted by jay on August 28, 2002, at 23:49:59
> Well, I have some pretty darn BIG issues myself...so it could be a competition..lol!
>That's not too funny when you're living it ... guess I've never been through such a competition myself, just have seen it a few times, whew. "WHAT ABOUT MY NEEDS" is bad enough screamed in a "normal" relationship ...
> I had been going out with a gal for 2 months
>before she told me she was on Paxil. That
>actually brought us closer together.Cool that you were so accepting. Once a guy found out inadvertently that I was on Prozac (I'd forgotten to take it that day and it was lying on my bed) and he got really cold, because a former girlfriend of his had been on it, and he liked her better off it. Whatever. A few months later he apparently decided that he regretted ending the exploration and started calling me persistently ... he seemed surprised that I didn't jump at the chance.
>"..before I got REALLY, REALLY ill" life.)
>Is -party party- recreational drugs? probably not the issues you need to relive through someone else.
> I wish *women* would make the first move.But do you like the kind of women who do make first moves? The 'cute', socially adept ones generally don't. The gawky, tired-of-games types (like me) do make first moves, but do you want that? and are you really more comfortable reacting when women make first moves?
> See how cyncial and jaded I have become?..lol!it's those dating boards. I've been through too many of those. Met some cool people, one ended up marrying my then-roommate. I was a real first-move girl, but when I met now-DH, I saw pretty clearly that he valued the traditional, chivalric thing, and that he needed to be the one to make the first move. A really shy guy too. He does more housework than I do, but he values his image of himself as a macho and it seems it was good I respected that.
What about telling women in general that a woman would have to pound you on the head with a clue-by-four to get you to realize she's interested? I've known a few guys who've made this known, and women have responded by being pretty direct, as in "hey. I think you're cute but I don't know how interested I actually am. Coffee and let's chat about it and find out?" It's up to you to ask them directly and get the cards on the table. But this won't work with the cute cheerleader types. So if that's what you want ... maybe look for a depressed cheerleader.
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