Posted by Ted on August 29, 2002, at 10:30:20
In reply to PB Dating board??, posted by jay on August 28, 2002, at 21:06:34
> I'd always thought a woman (in my case) could understand me better if we shared some common understandings, espeically about mental illness.
In principle, you idea is stellar and well planned and intentioned. However, my experience shows that, given the choice, I would NOT want someone from PSB as a mate for two reasons:
1. I want my mate to *understand* my illness, not have it too. I have a wife with lifelong major depression and social phobia. She understands mental illnesses very well. Nonetheless, her condition combined with mine has done nothing but complicate our relationship to the point of codependency and dysfunction on several occasions. It's not fun, trust me. I know other couples in the same position as me who have had identical outcomes.
2. I would lose PSB as a safe place to babble.
Now.... A PB flirting board.... That's something I could enjoy. :-)
PS: Oh and regarding a woman understanding me: I gave up on that thought when I was 17. I'm WAY too far off normal for anyone to understand, even myself. :-)