Posted by Ted on August 25, 2002, at 16:07:49
In reply to maybe this should be on psycho-psycho - ?, posted by Medusa on August 25, 2002, at 12:48:26
M,
> One of my younger sisters was molested...
>... and my father, who swept the issue under the rug and still blames me for not forgiving and thus "tearing the family apart"
<I have a reply which I am sorry isn't very supportive, but I feel I have to say it.>
Where to guys like your dad come from? Must be outer space or a result from too much family inbreeding.
Here's another example:
My secretary at work was repeatedly molested and raped by her father from about age 13 until age 17. She is very open about it. But here's the similarities:
1. He is in denial: "Oh THAT. Why can't we just forget about it?"
2. Her mom is angry and in denial: "That was SO long ago (actually only about 15 years ago). Why can't you just come and visit? Why can't your dad visit his grandchildren?" My secretary has a 9 year old daughter whom she will NOT let her father near for good reason.She has said all she expects from her dad is an apology. It has never happened and likely never will. He doesn't deny his actions, only that it is *his* fault his daughter has spent 10+ years in therapy, suffers PTSD and has panic attacks, won't visit or invite him to her home, etc.
Geez... where do men like that come from?
Ted
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