Posted by Gabbi on August 16, 2002, at 14:36:07
In reply to Family,isolation,etc., posted by sjb on August 16, 2002, at 9:41:03
Okay, you were just venting, but I have written that same post, repeatedly, archives) On a good I'll make a plan, and then overnight my mood changes, and I can't carry it through. I've lost almost all my friends.
And as for comments like "when the going gets tough" I wrote a post on those too, the only good in them is that they can take my mind off my depression and have me contemplate homicide for a few minutes. I also know they mean well, but its absolutely exhausting trying to explain that its not about one problem, or feeling sorry for myself because my life isn't perfect.
The depression sucks the life out of everything. I used to kickbox, and now I have people saying "good for you" if I walk to the store. I've gone to therapy groups to appease my family and they freaked me out, teaching things like how to prepare a meal personal hygeine. Cooking I did very well and enjoyed pre-depression, and I still shower for god sakes.
When I mentioned how awful that felt, my mom said "well I don't see you cook much"
And I flipped, you know Van Gogh couldn't always paint when depressed, it didn't mean that painting lessons would help him. !!!!!!!Sorry, Just venting back,
Thats such a sore spot with me, and because I know they mean well and its wasted effort anyway, I just blow up here.You have my empathy
In the mean time, Cheer up, think about how lucky you are, what would you do if you had a real problem? (just kidding)If you look in the archives march 20 2002 You'll find a whole thread started by Lili80 that pretty well covers all the stupid things people have said to make you feel better. And in that "oh I'm not alone way", it did make me feel better.
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