Posted by shar on June 17, 2002, at 20:51:31
In reply to Re: is my violence sane? - an ironic response (?) » wendy b., posted by omega man on June 17, 2002, at 2:07:43
My 2 cents on the issue, and I don't want to debate, or attack, just voicing MY opinion about the logic employed.
I am somewhat mystified about the real question here. Is it that O.Man wants info on dealing with annoying, potentially violent males--which *oodles* of women could provide for him--or only how other men deal with annoying, potentially violent males?
It strikes me as odd if it is the latter because O.Man seems to want to look at *alternatives* to what he has done when confronted by a man who is harassing him. If so, why ask only males, who are unlikely to have alternative views, steeped as they are in the same male culture and tradition. I'd say that many of the potential responses that O.Man ruled out would have included some alternative views.
Point really is, women are faced a LOT with harassing, potentially violent spouses, lovers, brothers, fathers, sons, and other males; banging on the door at night, coming to their place of work, cornering them in the kitchen or the car. Many women have been there, done that. Does it make sense to ignore the fact that they've been to the war, because they don't usually stand up to pee?
Ah, well. To each his or her own.
Shar
> how is it possible for a female to create an idea of how to deal with a problem male
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> its an impossible hypothetical..the female can't imagine a real solution because she does'nt have the experience of being male...(But she does have the experience of dealing with the problem male.)
>Maybe it would have been better to say something like "I'm particularly interested in how other men have handled this type of situation." Which is not to say women can't respond or don't have much to offer to this thread, but rather, that in *general* men are more violent than women and so would be more likely to relate.
(But it is women, very often, who bear the brunt of this violence, live with it, and deal with it.)
> I'm well aware there are a great deal of females more inteligent than me..and stronger..
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> how is it possible for a female to create an idea of how to deal with a problem male and then re-apply that solution to a male dealing with a male when in that real case there will be no allowances made for the gender difference which is something basic and instinctive.
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> its an impossible hypothetical..the female can't imagine a real solution because she does'nt have the experience of being male...
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