Posted by JonW on June 17, 2002, at 3:19:51
In reply to Re: is my violence sane ? » JonW, posted by omega man on June 16, 2002, at 23:10:16
> To be honest I reckon what I did has done the trick..I just got to be carefull not to let them back in my life when the inevatible apologies..and three months of good behaviour..being very respectfull etc etc..
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> its drink..it makes people agressive...affects their memory....this has been going on for quite a while...and I had to resort to these measures..not had to...I just lost it..thats something you can't control when backed into a corner..
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> could you ? is'nt this a matter of self defence ?Exactly, don't feel guilty about defending your own home! They have disrespected you and if they then corner you, it's only natural to fight or flight. This is where the police could have avoided all of this.
If these guys are part of a life that is significant you leave behind for your own mental health, then it's important you stand behind your actions and words and not let these people back into your life. You may actually get some good advice from a local support group or something. And don't feel bad as long as you didn't break any bones or anything. They pushed you into a corner and into "fight" mode. It's go time form that point.
Jon
p.s. I've only been in 2 or 3 fights in my life and I always feel so guilty or when I see other people fight it makes me sick to my stomach. But yet I'm also proud when I'm the victor. Am I a sick person?
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