Posted by paxvox2000 on April 22, 2002, at 18:46:27
Well, I guess I may have done it this time, but I don't think I had a choice. Yesterday, I had to call some of my wife's sisters to tell them how worried I was about her depression, and that she has not gone to (refuses) counseling to help herself. I know that the "bloodline" ties can be a double-edged sword, but luckily they know me well enough (and long enough) to know I was telling them honestly how tenuous things with her had become. I fear for her safety, and the effects it has already had on me over the past 7 years, and how it is now really starting to be picked up by my 7 year old daughter. I mean, what do I tell my little girl when she asks "why is mommy sleeping all day"? I know the root causes of her depression, and it is over 30 years old. I really can't elaborate on an open forum, but it clearly is not an issue that is EVER going to resolve itself with time. What next? I don't know. No one can be FORCED to get counseling unless it can be proven that they are a danger to themself or others. I REALLY don't want to turn that stone over.
Those who have known me, or have read my posts over the past couple of years, know that I struggle with my own demon of depression, anxiety and insomnia. This deal with my wife really drags me down to where I cannot function well, fragile as I sometimes am in general. I even went to counseling last summer for about 6 months to learn coping skills to deal with HER moods, and to keep them from dragging me in, That worked for a bit, but things have come back around. Sorry, I guess I am rambling on here, it's just that I am desparate for a solution. I want my wife back, I want our family to function "noramlly", I want my little girl to see how a couple is supposed to interact so that she can develop a healthy attitude. What can I do? I know I'm not the only one ever to face these circumstances. I have let it go on for too long, I thought "maybe it's this, nmaybe it's that, maybe it will pass." And have thus been enabling her to keep hiding from the dark and ugly past. It's time for it to stop. So how and what do I do? Anybody?
PAX
in the spiral downward
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