Posted by mair on December 18, 2001, at 12:48:17
In reply to Re: A BIG apology to my therapist. » Dinah, posted by robinibor on December 18, 2001, at 10:38:56
Dinah - I'm so glad Robin responded because I wanted to and haven't been able to. In the first place you definitely shouldn't stop yourself from posting when you're most upset. That's when you may need to the most. Secondly, it's not like your therapist is here reading what you're saying about him, so you don't need to apologize. Sometimes I've needed to post things here just so I can clarify things for myself. It's a lot easier for me to then discuss them with my therapist after I've done that. Some of that may involve separating the raw emotion from the more measured response - people can help give you a less reactive perspective. Lastly, but maybe most importantly, I know my therapist would absolutely want me to point out to her the kind of complaints you've been having about your therapist. Whether it's right or wrong, or overly emotional or reactive, it's still how you've been "experiencing" him and he should know that. If he's as wonderful as you say, he's not going to reject you for your honesty and it may be the basis for more productive therapy. I know this is easier said than done, since it's been a real focus of my own therapy lately that I have such a hard time talking to my therapist about things that I'm afraid will alter or lessen her opinion of me.
What's best of all is that it seems anyway that you're feeling a little better. Please keep posting however, regardless of how lousy you feel. I think many of us have been pretty
concerned about you and want to stay abreast with how you're doing.Mair
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