Posted by Rosa on November 27, 2001, at 15:38:02
In reply to Re: Holiday Depression - Robinibor, posted by Gracie2 on November 26, 2001, at 17:01:52
I dearly hope that everyone else is having a better holiday. I know that dysfunctional families are as common as bird poop, but there still has to be some loving families out there
Best wishes to you all-
Gracie the Rock
The percentage of dysfunctional families is extremely high. Here are a few of the common behavior characteristics.
1. We have feelings of low self-esteem that cause us to judge ourselves and others without mercy. We cover up or compensate by trying to be perfect, take responsibility for others, control the outcome of unpredictable events, get angry when things don't go our way, or gossip instead of confronting an issue.
2. We tend to isolate ourselves and to feel uneasy around other people, especially authority figures.
3. We are approval seekers and will do anything to make people like us. We are extremely loyal even in the face of evidence that suggests loyalty is undeserved.
4. We are intimidated by angry people and personal criticism. This causes us to feel anxious and overly sensitive.
5. We habitually choose to have relationships with emotionally unavailable people with addictive personalities. We are usually less attracted to healthy, caring people.
** From Friends In Recovery, 1994.