Posted by Dinah on October 2, 2001, at 23:11:58
In reply to I was probably too obtuse » shelliR, posted by Mair on September 29, 2001, at 22:07:23
Mair
I still think complete honesty is necessary in a therapy situation. It has to be affecting the effectiveness of your therapy to have knowledge of something in your therapist's life and feeling that it is taboo to mention it, and also to feel concern for your therapist over her noticeable change in demeanor. The tension of secrets is probably causing you difficulties in concentrating on your own concerns. I'm sure that you can think of some way to mention the problem as it relates to the therapeutic situation (using those good "I" messages) without sounding accusing and while emphasizing respect for the therapeutic boundaries. If she is as professional as you say she is, I'm sure she'll be able to handle the situation.
Of course, I don't know all the particulars, so take my advice for what it's worth.
Dinah
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