Posted by akc on August 18, 2001, at 20:02:21
In reply to Re: Why is it . . . » akc, posted by Willow on August 18, 2001, at 19:09:31
Willow,
Unfortunately, the Supreme Court of Missouri and of Kansas require me to attend two AA meetings a week. I just started going to this particular meeting. I have been thinking all afternoon, and I have pretty much decided to go back to the meeting it replaced. I thought I wanted a change, but I realize that there are several people at the other meeting I do feel close to -- this meeting I thought would be safer because it is all women -- but I have discovered that instead it is a bunch of busy-bodies. I think they mean well, but they just don't know how to not give advice. They confuse being supportive with telling you how to do something. You know -- if you would do it their way, well, then, you would feel better, isn't that right?
I read something, somewhere this week about how to be a listener -- and one of the points was about not doing the one-up stuff. Boy, isn't that hard. I know that if you tell me about something in your life, I have always thought one way to relate is to share when that happened to me also.
akc
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