Posted by paxvox on August 24, 2001, at 20:58:49
In reply to Re: family support » paxvox, posted by mgrueni on August 24, 2001, at 15:21:09
> Micha
Thanks, Micha, another sage observation from the pages. As in my answer to a previous response to my post, there is SO much to try to explain to put things into perspective. I am intigued, however, by you ladies and your fairly on target responses! :) My main personality fault is that I always have to be right (or at least I go to great measures to try to be). I am aware of this personality trait, and am trying to deal with it. It is not necessarily manifested in a "I'm an iron man" facade, more so a "no, that's not right because......". A counsellor I am seeing has suggested some ways to overcome this trait. Unfortunately, I am afraid that this has become so ingrained in our 12 year relationship that my wife has perfected rote responses to me that are no longer relevent. Perhaps it is HER self-defense mechanism, I don't know. She does have a lot of unresolved issues, but does not want to get them fixed. She has refused many attempts to go to see someone for help. Maybe her "known devil" is better than the unknown (SC's analogy...kinda mousey). Anywho......I was just venting. I did say for better or worse, so I know that I will find a way to get through, but I know I have to be healthy myself, and not let her exacerbate my condition by sucking me into her darkness (I know that sounds kinda harsh).
More later.
PAX
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