Posted by paxvox on August 24, 2001, at 11:23:20
Why is it that sometimes family members don't support us when we are having bad times, or is it just me? Why do I feel like my illness is a pox upon them? When I need some love and understanding, is it too much to expect that from my spouse? Is there some sort of defense mechanism that makes them mad at us because we are not well? I mean, it's not like I'm not functional. I earn the only salary, I do all the cooking, I help take care of my 6 year old, I more than do my share at home as well as earn the money for the home. A counselor trying to help me get my problems fixed says I am letting myself fall into this trap. My wife acts like she hates me, but interacts fine with others (for a while I thought she was bipolar because of her mood swings, but he says she would act that way to everyone, not just me). Now, she does have a thyroid problem that the endo doc cannot figure out, and clearly has buried a lot of life issues rather than face them, but it seems as if I have become the target for her anger. I thought I deserved some of it, but have changed as much as I can the past year to eliminate the things I KNEW I was doing wrong.
What gives?
PAX
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