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Re: is suicide ever rational?________________nyet! » kazoo

Posted by Marie1 on July 8, 2001, at 8:13:03

In reply to Re: is suicide ever rational?________________nyet! » Willow, posted by kazoo on July 8, 2001, at 3:16:03

Kazoo,
I don't think it's true that one doesn't recover from the suicide death of a loved one. Of course there is horrible pain and questions - the what ifs? and whys? but eventually it's possible to get to a place where you realize: this was his decision. This is what he wanted. Who am I to demand he stay here with the kind of unremitting, constant, psychic pain he felt. I'm pretty sure my remaining siblings feel the same way.
My parents were both gone when my brother killed himself, and I am glad they weren't around to experience that. I don't think they would have ever recovered, just as parents who lose a child for any reason never quite recover from such a devastation. If there is such a thing as an afterlife, I like to think my parents were there to welcome him.
Marie

> Willow, my dearest:
>
> > As understanding as my parents are ... they wouldn't take it personally.
> ^^^^^^^^^^
> Do you know that as a FACT? Have you ever asked them about this? And suicide is not the kind of thing one takes, or not takes, "personally," like some offensive joke. Without your parents, you wouldn't be here now to say that you don't want to be. Two words: twisted irony.
>
>
> > Sure they would feel a loss, but hey life goes on.
> ^^^^^^^^
> "... feel the loss" doesn't quite cut it: they would be devasted and guilt ridden for the rest of their lives. And not just them, but your entire family as well. Suicide creates and exacerbates pain for those who remain, but, Hey, for them, life *stops* as well never to be recovered or reclaimed.
>
> > Having the option gives some peace. I can wake up in the morning or when I go to bed measure the past and future, and if the scales tip too far knowing that I have a way out gives me strength.
> ^^^^^^^^
> Willow my dear, options are for cars and vacation packages, and not a factor to determine life or death.
>
>
> > Though if the shoe was on the other foot I would fight diligently for my child.
> ^^^^^^^
> Then try for one moment being in your folk's shoes ...
>
>
> Think, my dear, think! You are a bright, young, sensitive cupcake who has a lot to give in every sense of the expression. Direct all that bad energy to more positive outlets rather than imagining "scales" of life and death.
>
> May I spank you?
>
> kazoo


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