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'Trying too hard' » Dubya

Posted by Rach on July 3, 2001, at 20:24:10

In reply to Re: Why do I seemto be so messed up? everyone, posted by Dubya on July 1, 2001, at 0:25:49

You're right - I believe trying too hard means not being yourself. As sar has mentioned, there is more than one way to 'try too hard'. This is the most common type I have come across - the person trying to pretend to be like everyone else to fit in.

The thing is, most people can sense when you are not being true to yourself. This turns people away from you, because it as though you are lying; to yourself and to the people around you. People prefer the truth. You will begin a healing process if you are to be honest with yourself about who you truly are.

Try to discover who you are. Then be that person. Don't produce a fake representation of yourself, trying to be what you think others will prefer. As sar said, if you are feeling unhappy, don't pretend you are chipper for the sake of fitting in. Don't fake laughter. People only enjoy laughter that is spontaneous and truthful. People will respect you more for being human and yourself, than for trying to portray what you think they want to see.

Some people will not like the real you. There will always be someone who doesn't like you. There is an infinity of reasons why people do not like people. But it doesn't mean you are not a fantastic person. It just means that someone else has a problem with you. It's THEIR problem, not yours.

Don't worry about being different. People who are different add spice into life. People who are different see the world in a different light and better the people around them by showing them that life is so varied and that there is an infinity of possibilities in the world. In reality, everyone is different and if they weren't life would be boring and monotonous. So rejoice in who you are and try to show glimpses of who you are.

As the Genie said in Aladdin - "Bee yourself!" (Funny Disney movie, I love it).

All the best, smooth days, and much love, my fellow young 'un.

Rach


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