Posted by JennyR on June 26, 2001, at 23:14:19
In reply to When to terminate therapy, posted by Rzip on June 26, 2001, at 19:51:38
My take on this is, you know that expression "better to have loved and lost that never loved at all"? You fear the attachment because you are leaving in a year, but what you can get out of this next year may be very valuable to you. Even if it means saying goodbye at the end. The positive gains may be long-lasting, a chance to deal with endings in a positive way can be a good thing. You might never know what you're missing.
I too wonder when the time to terminate will be right. He says I'll know it. I don't know how I'll know it, but
as long as it's helping, I'm in no hurry. But of course I don't have the time constraints. I too pay out of pocket, but consider itself the best gift I ever gave to myself.
Termination in therapy can be a good way of reworking how you experience and deal with loss, in a supportive way, a chance to re-work how you deal with it, better equipping you for the next, maybe unexpected loss. You'll know you can deal with loss, even if it hurts.
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