Posted by ksvt on February 13, 2001, at 20:40:00
In reply to Re: Woman therapists, pdocs, posted by allisonm on February 13, 2001, at 18:12:46
>Shellie - I've had 2 different pdocs who were also my therapists. Both were older men whom I shepherded into retirement. What would Freud say about that? Tomorrow I see a woman pdoc who supposedly concentrates in women with depression. I have also seen 2 women therapists, including my current therapist. The first one I saw in addition to therapy with my pdoc because he felt there were certain issues that I might more easily discuss with a woman. I didn't really click with her and i found the 2 therapist deal to be much too confusing. After that I continued to see my pdoc, but only very sporadically. When i decided i wanted to go back into therapy I asked him for a recommendation, and although I didn't specify, I was really looking for a woman. It's worked out better, and I do find that it's easier for me to talk to her. I don't know whether it's a gender thing, or that we're both middle aged working women with children, or that I was just ready to talk about certain subjects that I had resisted before. I used to think I preferred my MDs to be men. Now i find myself with a woman dentist, woman internist, woman therapist and soon to be woman pdoc. I think I prefer it this way. K
I was in so much pain that I didn't shop for a psychiatrist, and wouldn't have known what to look for anyway. I took the one and only reference from the CSW managing the university sleep study I'd just gotten out of. She said he'd helped her. That was enough for me. He prescribes drugs and does psychotherapy. I like him very much. I think I lucked out.
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> The only other therapy I'd had was with a CSW, but that was on issues having to do with my mother's alcoholism. I found her overly sympathetic, and when she got that way, her speech slowed to a crawl too, so I felt like a toddler. She sounded kind of like an alto Shirley Temple, if you can imagine that.
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> My current pdoc will lower his voice when things get bad, but I don't get the (what felt to me like) condescending near-baby-talk. He'll just let the silence come in and give us both a chance to collect our thoughts before going on.
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> In the end, I left the CSW 5 years ago because she tried to push me into getting back into a relationship with my dad. I just canceled the next appt., never said another word, never said why, and never went back.
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> My current pdoc, who I've seen for 3 yrs., wouldn't do that.
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