Posted by JennyR on February 25, 2001, at 12:03:22
In reply to Jealousy » JennyR, posted by shar on February 24, 2001, at 1:45:24
When you say "until she has re-affirmed her love for me as a person" - do you mean your therapist actually has expressed feelings? It is maddening to me how mine never will. We have a great rapport, always have, and I pick it up in a lot of ways, but he will never, ever express a feeling. Sometimes I try to corner him, he will always wiggle out of it, throw it back on me. That bothers me a lot. On rare occasions he will say something ambiguous implying his good feelings toward me, and when I question it he takes it back, throws back on me my "need" to hear it which I find kind of humiliating. When I've tried to corner him, he's said "I'm not a machine" meaning he has feelings, but won't elaborate. One time he referred to "the good warm feelings between us" and when I questioned it he just kept referring to my "attachment" to him. One time recently he said "because you are appreciated here" which I questioned and then he twisted it and made it that I feel appreciated here, and that became a drawn out several session hassle because he clearly had expressed his feeling, then put it on me, ran away from it, didn't own it. He did finally admit that and I told him he's done it other times and it hurts me. But he will never come out with a feeling of his own without then backing off. It always upsets me because it's like he gives me something and then takes it away. What does yours say when she expresses her feelings?
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