Posted by Greg on September 26, 2000, at 10:02:40
In reply to Screaming misery and frustration, posted by Racer on September 25, 2000, at 4:29:12
Racer,
The company you work for is not representative of all the companies in the Silicon Valley. I've been working in SV for nearly 20 years and all my employers here have been great. Especially the one I'm working for now. They treat me with respect, pay me well and give me great benefits. Most importantly, they respect me. I think your company may be the exception rather than the rule.
I think it sucks big time that you have been treated in this manner. No one deserves that. Unfortunetly, companies like yours exist everywhere. You should really move on ASAP. My company is always looking for good people. If you'd like, e-mail me at the address above with the type of work you do and I'd be glad to see if there is anything available here. No guarantees, but I'd be glad to check into it for you. Always glad to help a fellow Babbler.
Greg
> OK, here's the sitch:
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> I moved to Silicon Valley. I got a job. It was the dream job for me: administering a non-profit computer training center. Basically, the same things I did in the cowtown of old.
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> So, why am I quitting? Let's see: I've let them walk all over me. My first paycheck was four weeks late, and no one seems to care. I know that the problems really aren't my problems. I know that I nagged for more than four weeks to get paid. I know that I called and emailed the person I had to go through daily for two of those weeks, with no response whatsoever. I know that NOTHING was done, despite my nagging. I know that when the check was finally made out, by someone else all together, spur of hte moment, because I had finally called EVERYONE on the board of directors until some one got a check written, and that person told me that I SHOULD have gone to so and so to get the check, Well, I know that that's not something which happened because *I'M* so screwed up.
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> In the last six weeks, I have been insulted, disregarded, micromanaged -- without receiving any support at all -- and blindsided in front of outsiders so that I feel like an idiot.
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> So, why do I feel like a failure? Despite the drugs, I'm getting depressed about this. I feel like a fat, sloppy, useless, lumpy, idiotic, worthless lump of flesh.
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> What now? Anyone have anything to offer? (Beyond what I already know: I may be allowing it to happen, but I certainly don't have the power to make them as truly screwy as they are! I guess what I want is to find out if anyone has any idea what causes this cycle of self-defeating thinking, and how to break out of the rut.)
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> Oh, and anyone have a job to offer me? I'd prefer one where the paychecks came in when they're supposed to. I dunno, I'm just a little anal-retentive that way...
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> (PS: does 'anal-retentive' have a hyphen in it?)
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