Posted by chdurie2 on August 25, 2000, at 23:17:59
In reply to Re: Hey Jena, posted by Greg on August 25, 2000, at 18:02:31
> jena- hi, i'm new here - my first posting, but i hope you pay attention to what nibor, i think, is basically saying. you haven't fallen into your old habits and yet you're so terrified of it you're acting as if you have. that's a great way to make the old habits come back. i may sound preachy, but it's cuz i'm also preaching to myself. i redo my self-destructiveness every day, even tho i say i won't. i just read nibor's website at living well.com and he makes a lot of sense. i've been where you are, dozens of times, at major crossroads, and looking back, i think the fear played a big part in re-playing really bad scenarios over and over. the times that sort of worked out were the times i told myself over and over to try differently. or, as i think someone on this board said about low motivation, "try anyway." and once, just to put the icing on the cake, i was sure, about nine years ago, that i would sink into a deep abyss, cuz my dad became suddenly critically ill (literally on death's door) and i lost my job in the same week (one i thought i loved,) but you know what? the abyss didn't happen. i decided that with my dad's death, i couldn't handle a job hunt, and i ended up turning a hobby, antiques, into a new career - one that eventually became very successful. it didn't happen cuz i wanted to become an antiques dealer; it happened cuz i felt i had no other choice and i decided to see if i could become good at it. because i could not bear the idea of looking for another job, which would have meant relocation. what i'm trying to say to you is i didn't fall into the deep abyss cuz i looked the other way. i need to do that more myself now. i hope it helps to suggest that you look away from the abyss - not stare at it - look the other way. hope this helps. and my name is caroline.
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