Posted by jonquiljo on March 10, 2006, at 13:36:44
In reply to Re: addicted to male attention » jonquiljo, posted by wildflower44 on March 10, 2006, at 9:11:02
Wildflower,
I read, and re-read you post many times. You didn't really miss anything. We are all (mostly) dangerous black holes of lonliness and neediness - whether we know it or not. I certainly am. Wanting independence and desiring solitude doesn't mean we don't need people in our lives. You can have both.
Just reach out for people, and - slowly - they will be there in your life when you need them. You didn't miss any lessons in life. It sounds to me like you are just scared. Its natural to shut people out and feel that you are "independent". I know thats what I do.
It sounds like you are young and have lots of time to make your life happy in the way it needs to be - and should be. Denial is a natural thing - moving on from denial is natural as well. It certainly sounds to me like you have all the abilities to move on from here. Most of all - give yourself a break. Needing someone isn't a weakness. I like to look at it as a strength. The best of luck to you - always.
Jon
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