Posted by gardenergirl on December 5, 2004, at 0:39:15
In reply to Thank You again, » gardenergirl », posted by 64bowtie on December 3, 2004, at 0:48:19
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> <<< Here at Babble, I can't and won't try to make contracts with anyone. Dr-Bob makes me accountable for "civility", and I accept that as an easily maintained price of admission. Otherwise, contracts don't work at Babble.>
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> <<< You got it! I hope that what I said about contracts is a stepping stone to understanding me. I don't really give advice that I expect adherence to. I can't get a contract so why should I demand responsiveness. I am purely delighted when someone sneaks in a gem into any response they may have posted. You are important to me because of the gems I have found in your posts to whomever. Thank you for connecting and sharing.The contract concept makes sense. Although it does seem as if you are acting as if you did have a contract. If you can't enforce or bind someone to something that isn't there, why uphold your end without that in place? Just curious. Is it that you appreciate the information you find in others' posts and thus you try to provide info. too?
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> I hear that you can't make the leaps with me between messages. Is that close to what you feel? (answer)
Um, that's exactly what I said. ;)> I also hear you asking me to bridge the gaps. Do you have any special style you prefer I use in writing my "bridging" statements?
I guess it's just that sometimes we glom onto very different aspects of each others' posts to respond to. And that can be frustrating, because it seems to me that I'm not being heard. Those are the gaps I refer to. Perhaps if we both post in shorter bursts with fewer concepts to each other, we can then both be talking about the same thing?
> You and I have this contract. Your part is to alert me to my vagueness and my part ist to reiterate less vaguely. Is this a good first draft of the contract?
I think this is good. I admit, I don't always directly state what gets me lost. I'll try to be less vague about it.
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> <<< I will now go back to your whole post and see how I can respond to the rest of your message. You deserve the best. Let me deliver my best.You know what? I don't need THE best. I just need your effort. And that's what I owe to you, too.
Thanks,
gg
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