Posted by 64bowtie on December 3, 2004, at 3:02:13
In reply to Re: I won't waste your time justifying myself.. » 64bowtie, posted by gardenergirl on December 1, 2004, at 10:59:49
GG,
> There is a difference between providing information and being supportive. ...trip up on is mixing those two up or using information when empathy is warranted.
><<< I understand and accept that you are concerned that I volunteer information when empathy is most important. I admit I write informative posts. I suppose I need to rethink what I am here for. I can't make the difference a therapist might. Dr-Bob frowns on attempted therapy. What I have to reconcile is, do I want to hang around a site that is only into supportiveness and no new-stuff. I don't think you are saying "either-or".
<<< Maybe someone who slates their wellness for the last 10 to 15 years, lacks the considerable empathy to share insights with folks that slate their currently deep and pervasive disorders. I believe I do have the adequate empathy and lack the proper timing. I'll work on my timing.
> A study he refers to often (naturally it is his own, :) of course), shows that using empathy early on is critical to the outcome. Once the working alliance is established via empathy, THEN gathering and providing information is most effective.
><<< I'll accept this on face value.
> In addition, unsolicited information can often fall on deaf ears. You know that old saying, "you can lead a horse to water"...but they ain't gonna drink if they ain't thirsty for water.
><<< I accept what you are saying on its face value, except I can't make contracts so I can't hold the Babble-folks accountable for accepting and understand the princples I bring here. I don't pretend to be doing therapy here. ...and Dr-Bob really frowns on that anyway!
<<< How am I doing???
Rod
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