Posted by 64bowtie on December 3, 2004, at 0:48:19
In reply to Re: I won't waste your time justifying myself.. » 64bowtie, posted by gardenergirl on December 1, 2004, at 10:59:49
GG,
<<< I am still sad that I over stepped with you... I again apologise...
<<< Regarding advice giving... In my coaching practice, nothing changes, nothing gets done, there is no progress, without what is refered to as a contract. It is not legally binding. It's a "social contract" establishing mutual responsibility and accountability (both/each are important).
<<< Here at Babble, I can't and won't try to make contracts with anyone. Dr-Bob makes me accountable for "civility", and I accept that as an easily maintained price of admission. Otherwise, contracts don't work at Babble.
<<< Also, taking two lines from the AA Big-Book:
1. ...I share my experience, strength and hope with all here present...
2. Everything you hear in this meeting, stays at this meeting. Take what you want into your heart and leave the rest....maybe I'm just wired different...
<<< Actually, I do journal... alot... I am saddened that I don't do good-explaining, for your consumption, especially...
> You've asked for feedback before. I'd like feedback now on my message. How is it received by you?
><<< You got it! I hope that what I said about contracts is a stepping stone to understanding me. I don't really give advice that I expect adherence to. I can't get a contract so why should I demand responsiveness. I am purely delighted when someone sneaks in a gem into any response they may have posted. You are important to me because of the gems I have found in your posts to whomever. Thank you for connecting and sharing.
Whether I agree or disagree with what you have shared is less important at the time I read it. I have the illusion that we are engaged in a dialog with its own synergy, so I don't stop to pass judgement on this or that detail. I see this clearly because you asked me to do it differently. I now have a plan that includes really responding to what your points are, so that you can have some assurence that you didn't waste your time with me.
Thanks! I needed that!
> For some reason, I can't make the leaps with you between messages. Can you help bridge the gap, please?
>
> gg<<< I bet our future stuff will be better than the past stuff... It starts right here:
Ahem...
I hear that you can't make the leaps with me between messages. Is that close to what you feel? (answer)
I also hear you asking me to bridge the gaps. Do you have any special style you prefer I use in writing my "bridging" statements?
(answer)Let me make a stab at this. I hear you saying that I leave you unable to bridge the gaps between my first post, your first response, and my second post which is my response to your post. I take this project seriously and you can hold me accountable to make our transacting posts un-vague as to meaning and intent. Yo and I have this contract. Your part is to alert me to my vagueness and my part ist to reiterate less vaguely. Is this a good first draft of the contract?
<<< I will now go back to your whole post and see how I can respond to the rest of your message. You deserve the best. Let me deliver my best.
Rod
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