Posted by Dinah on May 1, 2014, at 17:06:04
In reply to Re: He called!!!!, posted by Tabitha on April 30, 2014, at 15:09:32
Neither of you is a therapist, so it's not quite the same thing. But if a therapist's clients *are* in that position, it seems highly desirable *not* to be vulnerable to that therapist.
As it stands, my therapist was able to do something that might have been a bit intimidating to do. Goodness only knows, I've reacted with extreme anger the other times he's abandoned me. He was likely thinking something similar might happen. It can't have been easy for him to pick up that phone, and be relatively open with me.
And I certainly understand that contacting me was too much for him at one point.
But would he have, because it was easier and likely to bring less pain to himself, caused incredible pain to another person? One who cared very much for him and relied on him?
Again, you aren't a therapist. It isn't the same. My therapist always said he recognized the sacredness of the therapeutic space. He recognized the responsibility a therapist has to his clients. I like to think that whatever he decided to do, he would have contacted me when he was able to do so. And perhaps to some extent I do believe that he would do that unless time had put me out of his mind. I guess my faith in his keeping me in mind when I'm not in front of him isn't strong.
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